I found this article on dream-life-coaching.com and thought it might be helpful to you:

Accepting Others

Accepting others as they are without judgment is the fastest way to achieve peace and harmony in your own life. When we unable to accept another for who they are, or we pass judgment on them or their behavior, all we are actually doing is rejecting ourselves and passing judgment on ourselves.

How accepting we are of others is a very good indication of how accepting we are of ourselves. We see the world through our own biography, through our experiences and it is only possible to see qualities in another that we possess in ourselves. A child for example has no concept that someone might be lying until they learn how to lie themselves. It’s only once they have told a lie that they understand others may also be lying also. In effect they become a victim of their own crime.

The same is true with us. When we see a behavior we don’t like, understand that the behavior must be present in us somewhere for us to recognize it and be bothered by it. Instead of getting upset, try silently thanking that person for showing you that there is a part inside of you that you still need to work on.

Reminding yourself of a few other things can also help. Here are a few.

Their behavior is not conscious Most people are just doing as they have been taught to do. They are running the psychological programs and patterns handed down from family, school and society. The majority of people never stop to question why they do what that do, they just run the program mindlessly.

They are just trying to meet their own needs This is all we are all trying to do, everybody just goes about it a different way. It’s not about you at all, it’s all about them and getting their needs met. You are doing exactly the same thing, just in a different way.

Walk Away! If you don’t agree then just walk away! We do not have to have agreement to have harmony. Allow someone to do as they choose, just choose not to be a part of it.

Take a look at yourself The only way you can pass judgment is to be in possession of the correct idea or the correct standard. Open yourself up to the possibility that you might be wrong or there might be more than one way, life will get much easier for you.

I hope this was helpful-let me know what you think about it.

-CK

I discovered you must have a growth mindset focus on the opportunity. Understand that you WILL sometimes fail but your failures DO NOT DEFINE WHO YOU ARE. Do not assume you are defective if something goes wrong (I got an ‘D’ on my calculus exam means I need to try a different approach; it does not mean I am a stupid person). It's important to have a growth mindset that focuses on challenges. Seeing that opportunities give you the chance to try something new – even if it means you might not perform well. You absolutely will slow but surely improve if you don’t take failure to heart.

Here is my full story iusedtobethatguy.com/the-massive-hurdle-that-is-fear-of-failure/

Also feel free to check out my other inspirational stories that shaped me into a new person I can look in the mirror with pride.

I haven't been officially diagnosed yet, but I am constantly criticizing myself for everything. I get so scared about people judging me that i have panic attacks sometimes. I know that I shouldn't and my friends are always telling me that I'm beautiful and gorgeous and super smart and that they are jealous, but it doesn't matter to me. I just always look in the mirror and see someone disgusting and stupid and irritating that no one wants to hang out with. I try to very accepting of others, but it hasn't helped me with how I look at myself. I have a hard time talking to guys and I don't have any guy friends, so I always feel very lonely even when I'm with all my girlfriends because they all have boyfriends or they have had their first kiss or lost their virginity so I feel like a loner. I feel like I can't function in society. I'm always scared of someone judging me and i constantly pick at myself for everything. I criticize my body, my work ethic, my personality. I don't like myself, but i don't want to change. I don't know how to accept myself. Any time a guy tries to get close to me, I immediately become extremely scared and nervous and distrusful. I don't know how to trust them. this is even more bizarre because I have a great relationship with my dad and I love him and I have never had any issues with him. My biggest issue that I have is that I don't know how to begin to accept myself for who I am and learn to relax and calm down and not be paranoid all the time.

i kind of feel like i used to be the same in some respects. i had to focus for a while on what was wrong about the way i viewed things. i learned that NOBODY is perfect and mistakes and faults in people are a good thing. they are important and a part of what helps us grow as human beings and helps us figure what life is all about. we are all a work in progress and you should accept the things you consider faults within yourself. its ok. and it makes you a better role model if you can learn how to not tear yourself apart over them. some things just aren't really important yet they sometimes can blind you to what really is, if that makes any sense. for me now, can't be friends with people who aren't trying to improve themselves and do better for their lives. that's one of he only things that irk the crap out of me. the rest, i try to just accept, because it is THEIR life, not mine and i know from experience that i had to figure mine out for myself. No one is perfect, no one is the same but that's where alot of the beauty of life comes from, i believe. You have to learn to be less upright and judgemental, especially on yourself. you can't control anything that comes out of other people, you can only control your thoughts and actions. for me it was a waste living like that and im happy I've changed in that respect. i don't know if any of this helps or relates or if anything i said was already said but i wish you the best! good luck on your journey!